Over the summer my girlfriend cheated on me. Would you ask whether he is still taking Adderall? It's been incredibly effective & has made me finally be able to work like a semi normal person. I was angry and decided not to be upset about it and just keep it moving. In my own case it happened that it was an old rich man wanting to take the woman i loved and still loved with all my heart and strength. You spend as much time as possible with them to distract yourself from all the unpleasant work and growth and recovery that suddenly needs to be done. Not being familiar with the side effects, I felt like a was just getting a line because he didnt want to be with me anymore. mypclifeguard@gmail.com if anyone wants to talk. But I was on Adderall for about 5 years and it is the only drug that completely turns you into a Great,exciting,lively,spontaneous,loving person for the first few weeks. So dumb-ass me I took him back and we re-married after a 4-month divorce. Am I losing it ? Adderall has doubtlessly helped many people who were prescribed it, but it has also hurt many others. Then the real health issues kicked in. He refused. My parents have always told me that school is the most important thing in life, then everything else will fall into place. Were in different states already, and the future is so uncertain when well be separated by the ocean. Right now its kind of self-destructing. After that, I'm one miserable & lonely person. On Adderall you can end up staying like this, unproductive for years. Thats all on him , I still remain powerless and will always be powerless . Most of the time we accept how we feel on a daily basis and mark it as "normal." Your significant other will have one of two reactions to all of your Adderall-induced pushing away/distancing: either it will make them more attracted to you, or it will be too much and make them wish for somebody who could fulfill their emotional needs a little more. Thanks to the folks who have spilled their hearts out on this web page I realize I can no longer be involved with her. I wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me and not her. Dont be afraid to trust yourself and others. I love her a lot. I wasnt even aware. I hold no control in this situation , will I be able to handle myself in this powerless relationship ? We were both convinced that me moving will help fix how distant he was. Like he knows I care so much and will be there for him no matter how he treats me! To my greatest surprise my wife called me at exactly 2 days and apologies for all he had done, he said he never knew what he is doing and his sudden behavior was not intentional and he promised not to do hurt again. I think we all know what is the right thing to do. I dont know how true that is but i know that i was asked to get some materials for the witch doctor to make a spell that will reunite me and my fianc. Put simply, the Pursuer/Distancer Effect in a romantic relationship is this: When one person distances (pulls away), it often makes the other person instinctively try to pull them back closer (pursue). That is always a risky decision. Also I had just moved an hour away from our grandparents for financial reasons but Im willing to make the drive to see them. (7) You want to tie your husband & wife to be yours forever. ughh sorry that was a bit of a rant but they piss me off. Youre right that Adderall is poisoning him in some way, but that doesnt give you the right to demand a sudden and undesired change in his lifestyle. Exactly I year ago I met the love of my life. Say things like look, I know you want the old me back, and Im ready to do that for you because I love you, but its not going to be all roses. I could conquer it all. Not sure what to say but judging by how you called them the devil's pills I'd say rethink continuing to get them prescribed and stop getting them otherwise altogether if you still are. I love her a lot. This is causing insane self confidence issues & im someone that used to be confident. I was placed on adderall XR 30mg a year ago. The thing, is that I didnt feel like I was meeting her or her familys expectations because of my status then and now, (She doesnt think that) and the way our relationship started, between her parents, her ex-boyfriend, and I. A letter to the boss and adderall. we started fighting a lot and things were just rough (many tears on my side). Nov. 8, 2010 -- Kyle Craig, a musician, athlete and high-achieving . or I could re-marry him and numb out his neglect with Adderall. When it wears off she is clingy. What was a lie and what was the truth? This is not necessarily right or wrong, its more of a personal decision, unless parents with children that have ADHD believe in this treatment. Adderall was supposed to help me get through school. I knew of the mood swings, irritability, extreme sleepiness, all of the side effects of his crashes when he ran out, but we didnt live together before we married so hed try to manage his crashes to happen whenever we were apart. I explained I was not scared of myself, and that I was scared of her and that I could see she was not the person I knew just 2 months ago! He told me we would talk about it later. At night though, I would crash so badly. When your parents said that, they had no way of knowing that as Adderall-taker, you are at risk of being largely blind to your natural passions. I dont know, she had a way or rather she was good at messing around with peoples brain not like in a psychic way, it was more like all about her body. I just felt compelled to also contact him for help maybe i was not thinking clearly or i felt it was my only chance to make sure she soon to be fianc doesnt marry anyone else but me or maybe i felt both ways. 2. I mean who wouldnt fall for him he was cute caring and always knew what to say at the right time. Than I can be loving and kind instead of aggressive and hostile aNd INSANE!! My name is Mrs joyce from united kingdom i got married at the age of 30 i have only one child and i was living happily .After 5 year of my marriage my husband behavior became so strange and i dont really understand what was going on, he packed out of the house to another woman i love him so much that i never dreams of losing him, i try my possible best to make sure that my husband get back to me but all to no avail i cry seeking for help i discussed it with my best friend and she promise to help me he told me of a man called PRINCE AYAWU, he is a very great man and a real man that can be trusted and there is nothing concerning love issues he cannot do that is why they call him the great doctor. If anyone has advice or anything please please please feel free in email me at Ashmerlyn1991@gmail.com. 4. counselling, if you can afford it 5. and here's the most important part - you need to start dating other girls and try to move on. 2. I'm having trouble with my sister too. We were attached at the hip, and always honest with each other. I dont know if I can take another year of showing him I love him when I cant see any sign that he loves me back. We broke up for good about a month ago when he told me he didnt know how he felt anymore and he wasnt in love with me. He made me feel like trash like am good for nothing and he called me fat and ugly. My brain turns to mush & producing a simple sentence is borderline impossible. I wonder how many CEOs take adderall. Now I understand what happened to my relationship and the Girl that I love so much. He would also tell me all the time how he felt that I was really good for him. but as the dose crept up from 15 to 30 to 45 and to 60 my actual prescribed dose. I was so excited for her to be moving back to the Midwest with her fiancee Greg, I had already accepted Greg into our family I saw how he balanced her. At first they may enjoy spending a little more time with the real you, but soon yourdependencywill become apparent and it will smoother them. It's hard to resist, but I promise you if you try to reduce each time the dose, you will exit from it (at least from the psychological addiction). I met my ex boyfriend in highschool in NC, we dated and we had a pretty rough break up but he was my first love. Here recently, she has stopped taking it for about a month. I have a few good hours but then the crash comes and I'm become confrontational, extremely depressed, and have isolated myself and don't talk to anybody. I wish luck to those who are trying to quit and are continuing to do better for themselves. Her response was oh I was only upset because you wouldnt be around to take care of our grandparents. I felt for the people she was bullying. Then it dawned on me that these are side effects to the meds she was using. Im really not like that off adderall and it really breaks my heart knowing I treated someone so bad that I still to this day care about so much. She has been extremely reckless in the past, as a teenager I feared often I was going to lose my cousin my best friend to one or her poor choices. It usually doesnt go over well to bring up that you are on a controlled II narcotic. He is much nicer, much more communicative. I lost my job, hurt my relationship, mental health, self esteem and basically everything. I sent him the charges through his messenger to please help me get the item with the money to get my spell casted.He promised me that in the next 5 to 7 hours that i will start to see results after the spell has been casted to get the love of my life back and others. We had always argued and we had our share of problems, but the day our biggest problem came alive was the day we both decided it would be best if I went off of this medication. I told her I did not want it because I used to take it to get high in high school. My husband has been on Adderall for almost all of his adult life roughly the past 13 years. Perhaps, distancing myself from my girlfriend and family, and seemingly neglecting our relationship, and my health. To be sincere i almost faint as i was filled with so much excitement and happiness when my lost lover for over almost 9 months call was entering my phone and i picked the call were he ask if we can see to take things over and also my boss called me to tell me to come for training on my terminated job also due to too many thinking that in the office that result to it. Good page. Hes going to come home and everything is going to revolve around him and how hes doing and what hes doing to get better while I stand along side him powerless and silent to the point where I change my entire life style all because of his stupid chooses . Then Greg helped her calm down and I no longer worried. Thats the exact opposite of what a person taking Adderall to enhance work performance wants., https://medium.com/media/bd7f62e10c7a9939806c17f61fa9a12b/href. I explained my problem and all that I have passed through in getting him back and how i lost my job, so Dr baba nnaji told me he is going to help me. But today I'm trying to accept that this Higher Power My God has a plan and I only need to know and do MY part and that means taking care of me and saying it's ok for me to find happiness even though the person I love the most is dying before my eyes!! I didnt think I had a part in his behavior!! About a year ago i started to notice some changes in my wifes behavior. Even if you didnt ask, the tension would be so thick and both of you would be thinking about his Adderall usage. Was this drug ever controlling over him and over me to the point that everything we had was a lie ? Thanks to the folks who have spilled their hearts out on this web page I realize I can no longer be involved with her. Let me make one thing very clear, many of us parents are fools, we get caught up in our childrens glory and stupidly bask in the limelight of their winnings but no parent who is deserving of the honor of being a mom or dad ever wants their offspring dependent on a drug to feel self worth, especially at the expense of self acceptance, dignity, happiness, knowledge, trust, awareness and human connectiveness. My final piece of advice to anyone reading this, dont take medication if you can help it. Not only that its like 100 messages. Philosophically I agree with quitting it, but the problem is not us, it is society, society is built around people who think confined, we do not, we are unique, we are the artists, the problem solvers, the executives, the entrepreneurs. After a few hours, I'm miserable. Thanks! we broke up when I found him looking for people online but got back together when he decided our life was too good. I almost got fired and I told my manager to give me 2 more weeks because I was getting on something that would help. I hate that adderall ruined multiple relationships, and just me as a whole. Everything I used to be so passionate about just faded away. The loneliness persists and I was not expecting that to go away on it's own of course. (3) You want to be promoted in your office. (compared to most of the stories) She recently broke up with me, but I think it was because she stopped taking the adderall. Adderall has been used recreationally around me since high school. i started to think about all the relationships that she had and how they were very shallow and almost nonexistant. I used adderall for about a year, then last November quit cold turkey. So quite or start going to events to get in touch with crazy people both are not very appealing. I did a successful taper. I hope this helps someone. So it's kind of like, "What are you using it for then? Ive been keeping track to make sure Im not just insane; he hasnt told me he loves me without me saying it first for weeks. I can never forgive my twin sister even though i have got my love back. Knowing everyone else shares these common experiences just confirms that adderall is the culprit. I miss the giddiness. Some how the old life we had arose again this time it happen that the guy my sister fell for, fell for me and i fell for him also i made sure it was okay with her before i went on the first date with him. She explained that he opened her mind the way no one else has, and he inspired her to be a better and more creative person. That was almost 6 years ago. We all have told her she is no longer a part of our lives and that rehab is the ONLY way back into them. And when I have approached her about all of this she tells me the same thing. I got a adderall prescription about a week after my girlfriend of 6 years up and left me. Mind you this soul mate just got out of a serious relationship as well, is an ex herion addict and is also on drugs for his severe ADHD. the pill creates illusions of thought from confident to grandiose all the way to feeling like your nothing and even feeling inferior. She uses her daughter (who still loves her mom and does not understand why everyone is "being mean to her mommy") to get brief glimpses back into everyone's life. I did find a non stimulant alternative natural that controlled my adhd, but it is addictive, it is called Kratom. In order to function properly one must continue his increased dose as dropping down will only make you take more. he started to distance himself. You are not. at least you arent alone. When I was about to graduate from college, I started to develop an eating disorder by the jolly old name of anorexia nervosa. I am here to tell you that is not all in your head. Good luck. I didnt give the love, time and respect she deserved and the bad thing is I really had no idea I was like that. I have always had to work very had to get what i want but she, things just falls in her lap without having to labor for it. However, as is the case for another amphetamine derivative methamphetamine, or meth, some of the Adderall neurotoxicity effects on the brain may take a year or more to fully repair themselves, NIDA explains. Our two year relationship ended on our anniversary. Its when people take massive amountsnot orally, but by snorting it or mainlining it [for a stronger effect]that it becomes really neurotoxic.. I am a guy, I workout, had a trainer, got buff, but adderal def burns your hormones and lowers your testosterone, so I started hormone replacement therapy. I got through all that without Adderall. How am I supposed to feel? Try to look into privately ran facilities vs. facilities ran by the state. They saw me as bad news, and I understood why. Paste as plain text instead, Now Im taking steps to get help and correct my behaviors that have negatively impacted the relationship we once had, because we decided to end it. I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from United Kingdom.He proceeded to see both her and I until I caught him testing her one night. Even though I was very sluggish and anxious after quitting, she still liked me better! Thanks for the kind words! The healthiest, most hopeful mix. Motivation to clean, energy, even brought her libido back. I am devastated. When I was an executive of a company I delegated tasks and was able to get by without adderal, now in my own biz, I cannot do that, so I need it. As I am in college, I would drink heavily on vyvanse and sometimes I would abuse it to make me more social. On adderall I easily tell people what I think about them and pick them apart. She then began to become engulfed in this infatuation with this new guy because she believed she was experiencing a spiritual awakening and the universe brought them together. When he gets mean, most of the time I just walk away and give him space and sleep in the other room for my own mental health. How I Lost Everything and Began to Rebuild My Life. He helped me a lot he sent a package for me with ups of which i paid for to get to me from an international.